Since moving to the Inland Northwest, I have joined up with some pretty rad ladies. The Shrinking Violet Society. We are young, we are free... wait no, we are entrepreneurial, motivated, active, and energized in general to connect to our community and make it work for us, as we work for, it.
Right off the bat, I got excited about the upcoming November Book Group read, Anita Diamant's The Red Tent. Then all of a sudden, as I do, I was raising my hand, marking my planner and declaring myself capable of leading the discussion. So here it is a week away, and I am accumulating talking points.
I first read this book on my way to Calcutta in 2006. My mom says, respectful of my journey into poverty, "That's a downer." I had read the first few pages already, as I do when I pick up an unfamiliar book, and replied "It can't be, it's all about birth and midwifery!"
I want to share some talking points with this forum (whoever you are.. Mom, Chanel, Chelle, Elizabeth, Johanna...)
We don't have red tents anymore, we don't honor and celebrate womanhood in our society, we shun it and perpetuate the mystery and fear, we successfully maintain the taboo and thus the misunderstanding, the unknown, the false. This goes for coming of age, rites of passage, menarche or first menses or as a young girlfriend said to me one day in the fifth grade: Have you come to the end of your sentence yet? THE PERIOD. Awesome example in my opinion. This also goes for SEX, conception, pregnancy, BIRTH, breastfeeding, childrearing, loss of pregnancy, termination of pregnancy, and in the end (as it always is) DEATH. Big, heavy, important stuff.
All I want, if you are inclined, is for you to think about your experiences. Here's a lead; Reminisce fondly and fearfully with a splash of mortification, about your first menstruation. What went well (hahah!), and what did not? How could that experience have been better, more supported? If you could bestow a different experience on a daughter/niece/friend's kid/student/other, what might that look like?
There are zillions of ways to empower women, this is one that is WAY up there on the list of Best Ways to Ensure Empowerment/Disempowerment in our female youth.
Men, you are not excluded. I was a part of a curriculum committee for a new course in the Women Studies department for this academic year, a Masculinities course. Men are also (perhaps not equally, but nonetheless) disempowered in our society. Women and men must support all of our youth. This is how new generations can change the world.
If you want to share stories, gosh, I'd sure LOVE to hear 'em! .